So long, farewell

On June 25 I assumed that a member of our "family" had left to seek a spot on the first-place team of the latest Feast, which had started hours earlier that day.

I don't have a long history with her, and based upon our limited history, I assumed the worst of her actions. I looked like a jerk because of it. 

I asked her why she suddenly bailed out of a group she professed devotion to, and the exchange we had, and her interest in returning to our group, despite the fact I had been a jerk was good enough for me to bring her back. I gave a person the benefit of the doubt, doubt I had expressed an hour earlier. 

That didn't sit well with DARNDICE, the new member who I thanked profusely in my previous post, for bringing a new group of players to the family. There is no doubt, DARNDICE was not upset that I was a jerk and assumed the worst of another player. She was upset that I decided to bring that person back, based upon that person's word. DARNDICE promptly left our group.

Again, she was clear in direct messages to me that she left because she didn't want me to bring the other player back. She never explained why she wanted the other player to remain exiled from our family.

Nothing I can do when people make puzzling decisions. I learned that weeks ago. 

I expect we'll lose others as a result. One of DARNDICE's followers gave me the third degree via private messaging. Questioning my judgment is fine, but being rude and insulting is not acceptable. I will say no more about it, other than to note I removed her from our group.

Within an hour one of her close comrades was also gone. I'm sure he won't be the last. 

Our group lost good contributors, but I won't apologize for trying to be kind to somebody who could have remained with the front runners, but accepted my apology and returned, claiming she left the group through no fault of her own. (The Yahtzee app has glitches, we've seen them, so it's not hard for me to believe that a member is having trouble with her phone/Yahtzee app.) 

I'm human, people will rub me the wrong way. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and I should have done so earlier this evening. Because I didn't, we lost three people so far. But given the reasons we lost them, our group is better off without them. It's too bad my act of kindness rubs people the wrong way, with no good explanation for it.

UPDATE on Thursday, June 26:
It's the morning after the big fiasco, and I am glad that three people are gone.

First and foremost, I feel like a jerk, still, for my knee-jerk reaction. I assumed the worst of a player who was no longer in our group, and I expressed that immediately without giving her a chance to respond. Ultimately it doesn't matter if she wants to leave and join the lead group. But given previous exchanges we'd had, I took it as an insult that she was in another group, and chastised her in our private group chat without waiting for her to respond to my inquiry as to why she was gone after all the effort she made to remain in our group. I look like an idiot because of it. No sugar coating it. It's a fact.

I received several, and I mean several, private messages from people as a result of the previous night's fiasco, and learned some interesting things about those who are no longer in our group.

I was quick to acknowledge my shortcoming as a team member. I'm not the only person with shortcomings, however, and others choose to take their Yahtzee action elsewhere and pretend they're victims, victims of something. They're victims of their own poor judgment and decisions, nothing more.

Let the good times roll!